A couple Sundays ago our daughters asked if they could please make dinner for us. Normally, I would say “no” because I wouldn’t think of the joy it would bring them and the whole family. No, normally I would selfishly think of the messes and extra work it would create for me. I wouldn’t think of the learning opportunity, I wouldn’t think of how my “no” would be killing their interest in domestic things like cooking for your family. I would think of how much more efficiently I could get dinner out, I would think of how I would have to answer endless questions and explain very basic things. Normally, it wouldn’t cross my mind that the Lord was giving me a chance to act out Titus 2 in my own home, it wouldn’t cross my mind that always saying no is indeed neglecting my responsibilities as a mother of daughters.
Thankfully, the Lord is rich in mercy and had very recently brought to my attention my sinfulness of saying no constantly. So, on that evening a couple of Sundays ago I said, “Yes. We would love for you to make us dinner.” And I cannot believe how much of a blessing it was to our family. The girls worked cheerfully together to put a beautiful dinner on the table for us. They were so excited and honored to be serving us. I found so much joy in answering their questions and cheering them along. I was so touched by their hard work that I didn’t even mind the two hours spent in the kitchen cleaning up after dinner.
They made us a lovely dinner of hot dogs, mashed potatoes and a veggie tray. For dessert they served sugar cookies and strawberries. They drew up individual place-mats for each person and set the table beautifully.
It was a wonderful evening for the whole family — a true blessing from the Lord.
“It’s a solemn thought that our love for God is measured by our everyday relationships with others. Except as its validity is proven in standing the test of daily life with our fellowmen, our love for God may be found to be a delusion. It is easy to think that we humble ourselves before God, but our humility toward others is the only sufficient proof that our humility before God is real.”
“I’m afraid that there are many who by strong expressions of self-condemnation and self-denunciation have sought to humble themselves, but who have to confess with sorrow that a humble spirit with its accompanying kindness and compassion, meekness and forbearance, is still as far off as ever. Being occupied with self, even having the deepest self-abhorrence, can never free us from self. It is the revelation of God not only by the Law condemning sin but also by His grace delivering from it that will make us humble. The Law may break the heart with fear; it is only grace that works that sweet humility that becomes joy to the soul as its second nature. It was the revelation of God in His holiness, drawing nigh to make himself known in His grace that made Abraham, Jacob, Job and Isaiah bow so low. It is the soul that find God to be everything that is so filled with His presence there is no place for self. So alone can the promise be fulfilled: “The pride of men brought low; the Lord alone will be exalted in that day” (Isaiah 2:11)
It is the sinner basking in the full light of God’s holy, redeeming love, in the experience of that indwelling divine compassion of Christ, who cannot but be humble. Not to be occupied with your sin but to be fully occupied with God brings deliverance from self.”
Not just today, but always, I’m thankful for my husband. God has given me an amazing man to spend my life with. His commitment to Truth will never cease to amaze me. He is, quite often, directing me back to Christ, keeping me humble, and teaching me every day. He lovingly endures all kinds of questions from me as I learn and grow in Christ.
Even after waking up very early (4am) and long days at work, he comes home ready to help out here. He rarely complains about anything that needs to be done. Even though he is new to parenting, he has proven himself to be a natural daddy! He almost always reads to our girls, and answers their endless questions with patience, grace, and mercy.
I am so blessed that God gave me to a man devoted to Christ, His Church, and His Word. These are the rocks that guide Josh as he leads our family and for that I am endlessly thankful.
This blog has been quiet for a week and half so I thought I would check in! 🙂 Things around the Dermer household have been busy. Titus is growing bigger, along with my belly, and we are busy taking care of last minute things before his arrival next month. We have also been out of state visiting family and celebrating my brother’s marriage.
My wonderful husband and daughters bought me an awesome book bundle for Mothers Day (Mothers & Daughters, Praise Her in The Gates, and Building Her Home by Nancy Wilson, along with Loving The Little Years) and I have been reading those books in my spare moments. They are wonderful and I would recommend them to all mothers!
We also have recently implemented a new family tradition: Sabbath dinners. This idea came from two of the books by Nancy Wilson mentioned above. My husband had been trying to make sure we all focus our hearts & minds toward God and worship each Saturday evening. So, when I shared the idea of Sabbath dinners with him he was very excited and supportive. Our first Sabbath dinner was Saturday evening and it went really well! It’s different from our normal dinners for several reasons: we eat in the dining room, I use all our “fancy” dishes, we set a formal table, we have dessert, we have wine/sparkling cider, we eat by candle-light, we end with family confession. During this dinner we tie in family worship as our Saturday family worship is different than other nights — we usually read through the Bible one chapter at a time each night, but on Saturdays Josh reads the verse(s) that will be preached on the following day and we discuss them. I have to say God richly blessed us during our first Sabbath dinner as we ended up lingering at the table for two hours discussing the things of God. (I want to add that we in no way feel Sabbath dinners are Scripturally mandated. This is simply a family tradition we have embraced for our family.)
This is a nice little poem to help remember the ten commandments. It also makes great copy-work! 🙂
A Creed to Live By
from the McGuffey Reader
“Above all else love God alone;
Bow down to neither wood nor stone.
God’s name refuse to take in vain;
The sabbath rest with care maintain.
Respect your parents all your days;
Hold sacred human life always.
Be loyal to your chosen mate.
Steal nothing, neither small nor great.
Report, with truth, your neighbor’s deed;
And rid your mind of selfish greed.”