“If we are not content to wait on God for our desires, if we are miserable and sin as a result, then our heart’s desire is not set on the glory of God. Instead, our desire has become an idol.” -from The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective Chpt. 7
What a profound, true, convicting statement. I’ve been reading The Excellent Wife for a few months now and I highly recommend it to all wives and fiancés. It’s full of strong, theologically sound, Bible based truth on what it means to be a Biblical wife.
In chapter seven, titled Christ: The Wife’s Heart, it talks about idols, namely idols of the heart. The author gives lists of things that may be idols and some of them may surprise the reader.
1. Good health.
2. Physical appearance.
3. Having a Christian marriage.
4. Being treated fairly.
5. Having a hurt free / pain free life.
6. Worldly pleasures.
7. A child or children.
8. Another man or woman.
9. A material thing.
10. An ideal of movement (pro-life movement, peace movement, etc.)
13. Others’ approval.
14. Being in control.
15. Having your “needs” met.
Of course, just because something is on this list doesn’t mean it is bad in and of itself. But, as the author discusses, our thoughts and actions in regard to the items on this list can be the problem. As wives (and Christians in general) the main desire of our heart should be to glorify God. We should be content in our circumstances … much easier said than done.
And that’s so important to realize, there’s a reason it is much easier said than done. We are sinners, it goes against our nature.
“… Seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.” Col. 3:9-10 ESV
It is only by the sweet, free gift of Grace that we can accomplish this. God alone, through grace alone, by faith alone, in Christ alone allows us to do all things to the glory of Him. Yes, we still fail because we are in a process of being sanctified. It is only in heaven, free of the sinful flesh that we will do this always and fully. But, how merciful of God to allow us to experience some of that here! Can you imagine the awful fight, the gloom, the despair if we could not taste any of the fruits of delighting in the Lord while here on Earth? God does not owe us this grace, this help, or anything at all! But He is good, He is merciful, He is kind, and He is loving. Bless the Lord for allowing us this!
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
and all that is within me,
bless his holy name!
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits,
who forgives all your iniquity,
who heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit,
who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,
who satisfies you with good
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.
Psalm 103:1-5 Esv
Be encouraged dear friend, God has given you grace to overcome trials, to overcome sin and sorrow! Feast on His word, full of Grace and wisdom for His children. Meet with Him in prayer as often as possible. Let the Lord transform your heart through the renewing of your mind.
“Do not be conformed to this world,
but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern
what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:12 ESV